Life is easier when you are in sync with others
Live better and happier by strengthening your relationships and being more in sync with others.
Relationships, though fulfilling, tend to be one of the most complicated areas of our lives — particularly when there's a lot of ambiguity, misunderstanding, and one-sidedness.
One of the biggest challenges we experience with relationships is that we often (perhaps unintentionally) approach them from a selfish place:
We tend to focus on what we can get out them
We overemphasize our needs, desires, and expectations
We make assumptions about others based on our worldview
We can't take responsibility for our role in conflict/problems
As a result, we may have good intentions but are often not perceived as such by others. It is very difficult to be at ease in life when you feel misunderstood by or disconnected from others.
However, one of the easiest ways to strengthen your relationships is to start by improving your Interpersonal Dynamics.
Emotional Intelligence (which you may have heard of) is the ability to recognize your own and other people's emotions.
Interpersonal Dynamics (which you may not have heard of) is the ability to use Emotional Intelligence as a tool to communicate and connect more effectively.
In summary, Interpersonal Dynamics refers to how our nonverbal signals (body language, facial expressions, etc.) support or detract from our verbal messages in 1-on-1 communication.
Here are three ways you can improve the way you communicate with others:
Think about a relationship that is not as strong as you would like it to be perhaps due to some disconnect or miscommunication.
Consider things you are doing (or not doing) that may be causing disconnection and miscommunication, by viewing this video by Heidi Grant Halvorson's video.
Determine one aspect of your communication to improve based on insights from the video. Experiment with the relationship you identified and take note of the response.
One example is being honest about your limitations and knowing when to admit ‘I don’t know.’
Being willing to be vunerable with people we want to establish a strong relationship helps tear down barriers and builds trust.
We enthusiastically recommend The 5 Love Languages to support you in this endeavor.
We can personally vouch for the wisdom in this book and use the insights daily — particularly being mindful of interpersonal dynamics within intimate relationships.
This #1 New York Times Bestseller lays out a simple communication theory and gives prescriptive advice on how to identify (and get in sync with) the often unspoken needs and desires of our significant others.
Though the author focuses on love and romance, his insights can absolutely be applied to other types of relationships as well including business and professional.
If you are looking for a simple framework for improving the quality of your relationships then start with this book.
We also recommend Heidi Grant Halvorson's book No One Understands You and What to Do About It to dig deeper into the mismatch between your intentions and how you are perceived by others.